Love can be confusing and complex at times. In a perfect world, you could approach a girl, give her a look, and she would instantly know you’re into her. After that, you two could continue with a pleasant conversation, where the chemistry just flows, with no distractions or disturbances.
If everything turns out as expected, you eventually could start a loving and endless romantic relationship. Sigh! Only if everything was that easy and straightforward.
Unfortunately, we don’t live in a movie or fairy tale. You need a plan or strategy to approach your crush successfully. Even with a sound game plan, things may very well go south.
Important points to keep in mind
Some things will simply go wrong
No matter how much time, energy, and effort you take imagining and picturing how you will approach the girl you like, some things come out better in your head than in reality.
It’s essential to have a good idea of what you want to say and how you’ll say it. It’s important to remember not to overdo it. Keep it natural and straightforward, and obviously, handle the unexpected in the best way possible. Trust me, she’ll thank you for it.
Make spontaneity your best friend
It could be tempting to have a memorized speech or have dialogue prepared for the expected moment when you express your interest. But know that too much preparation could make you sound robotic and unnatural.
Depending on how you approach the person, she could sense creepy vibes coming from you if you communicate like you’re reading a script from a monitor. Remember that you’re talking to a human and need a natural tone to look more welcoming and approachable.
When it comes to approaching a girl, keep it simple
Many people overthink their approach and hope for the best outcome. You could come up with elaborate and costly gifts to create an excellent first impression or envision complicated ways to get your message across.
Interestingly, the best way to approach a girl is the simplest one, especially if it’s the first time expressing interest. Keep things simple, let the other person feel at ease, and naturally go with the flow.
Look for signs of interest in the other person
If you want to let someone you already know that you like them, it’s more than likely you’ve had a few conversations with them. Whenever you interact with her, look for signs of positive feedback. Does she touch her hair when she talks to you? Does she do her best to keep the conversation going?
Signals are everywhere, the tone and expressions she uses when she talks to you, the way she looks at you, or even a smirk here and there. The best strategy is to go with your intuition when you’re ready to approach her.
Be direct and straightforward
You can quickly get nervous when talking to a girl you like. It’s okay, totally normal, but don’t try to sugarcoat or go on a long-winded, beat-around-the-bush speech when talking to the person you’re interested in.
Depending on the girl you’re approaching, she might get mixed signals or be completely confused if you don’t clearly state that you like her. If you don’t, she may just think you’re being friendly and categorize you in the dreaded friend zone.
Keep it casual
You don’t need to spend too much or put too much thought into approaching a person you like. Actually, you risk making the situation awkward if you push the envelope too far when expressing your interest for the first time.
It’s essential to not make the other person feel cornered or pressured. Your goal should be to keep everything casual and easygoing so she doesn’t feel obligated to give you a certain type of response.
Use friendly expressions and a positive tone when speaking to her. Make sure your facial expressions match your body language, smile, and relax.
When she’s talking, pay attention!
Remember, when you approach the girl, you’re having a conversation, not a monologue. Don’t make it about you. Be attentive and listen closely to what she says.
Depending on how she responds, you can follow up with something that helps acknowledge what she says and welcomes her opinions.
Women truly appreciate a man that actively listens. She will feel appreciated and respected which will bode well for the future of a possible relationship.
40 Ways to tell a girl you like her
1. Send a charming text
Girls love to feel appreciated and cared for. You can take advantage of this by sending her a simple and friendly text that shows that you’re thinking about her.
Don’t overdo this. You don’t have to pour your heart into the first few text messages. Instead, keep it easy and to the point; a “Good morning! Hope you have a nice day” can very well open up the bridge of communication between you and that special person.
2. Ask for her number
This step has a better chance of success once you develop a certain level of comfort with a girl. You certainly don’t want to be a weird guy by asking for a girl’s number the first minute of meeting her. Unless she’s made it abundantly clear that she’s into you, this will most likely turn her off.
Remember, asking for a phone number should come naturally. Listen to your intuition and recognize any positive feedback she’s giving you.
3. Offer to take her out for a meal
What better excuse to show interest in a girl than sharing a nice meal? If you’ve managed to build up some rapport, few girls will decline an invitation to have lunch with you.
She could definitely take advantage of your excellent company and you can get to know her better in a casual setting. It’s a win-win for everybody. Do your research, and try to pick a place according to her food preferences.
Remember to always treat the service staff with respect and kindness. You can learn a lot about someone by the way they treat a waiter or waitress. Trust me, your date will notice.
4. Go for a walk
There is no better way to show interest in the girl of your dreams than going on a romantic walk with her. A walk is the perfect casual environment to get to know each other. It’s low investment, it’s 1-on1, and you can use your surroundings as conversation topics.
Use this time to get to know her. Ask her questions or test the water by giving her a compliment and seeing how she responds.
5. Give her a cute handcraft
Some people are just very skillful with their hands. If you’re one of them, think about putting those skills to good use. The beauty of doing arts and crafts is that you can create memorable and unique pieces with the simple materials.
Besides, not many people can come up with ideas and bring them to reality in a thoughtful way. If you have that ability, get to work and show her how much you’re interested in her this way.
6. Share a hobby with her
If you notice that you and the girl you like have a hobby in common, you just hit the jackpot. Sharing pastimes is one of the best ways to create a strong bond that could potentially become a romantic relationship later on.
If you’re not sure about her hobbies, ask! People generally like to talk about things that interest them or that they’re good at. Pay attention and remember these things.
7. Take her out for a cold treat
Summer and heat waves can bring positive vibes as well. You can casually present the idea going to grab an ice cream, frozen yogurt, boba milk tea, or even an iced coffee. Remember to be courteous and always consider her preferences to make her feel appreciated and cared for.
Take advantage of your c0ld treat by sitting outside where it’s quiet so you can start a pleasant and engaging conversation. Take advantage of this opportunity to show some interest in her, if she feels the same way, she’ll certainly appreciate it.
8. Send her funny memes
These are undoubtedly modern and different times. You have probably noticed plenty of new ways of communicating. Among them is sending memes. A meme could be an image, video, or humorous picture that can be easily relatable to many situations.
You can totally take advantage of memes when texting with the girl you like. Make it funny by sending a stupid meme related to a particular circumstance you both are going through.
People love to laugh and a good meme is a great way to accomplish this. Be the person that will bring a big friendly smile to her face when she gets a text, DM, or email from you, this will undoubtedly help build rapport.
9. Send a cute email
You might think of emails as a way to communicate at work or for formal requests, but they are still an effective way to reach out to the girl you like.
Think about it, emailing a girl can be something different and unusual for her, so it might immediately make you stand out to her. You want to pique her interest by doing something innovative and out of the ordinary.
Use your creativity and imagination to consider what to include in the email. It could be something as simple as a picture or funny video or even a few thoughtful words with the goal of making her smile.
Whatever your decision is, make it clear and concise, and aim for brevity for better results.
10. Visit the zoo
You can consider inviting the girl you like to the zoo, especially if she’s an animal lover. You can ace your dating assignment if you notice that she mentions she loves animals.
She’ll definitely appreciate getting into close contact with the wildlife. As a bonus, make it a point to visit her favorite animals or exhibits first.
Always be considerate with this option. A zoo might not be such a good idea if she loves animals and hates how they are encaged or mistreated when confined or isolated. Be cautious and thoughtful of her principles before you make the invitation.
11. Go on a hike
If you’re a nature lover, you can try asking the girl you like to join you on a hiking adventure. It could be the perfect opportunity for you to get to know her better and see if you two would be compatible by sharing the same hobbies.
Besides the exercise you’ll get with hiking, it’s also an amazing mental boost. A study by Stanford has shown that hiking for 90 minutes can lead to decreased activity in the area of the brain linked to depression.
If you have previously heard that she enjoys working out and is also a sports enthusiast, think no further, hiking is the option you have been looking for. Make your move, and take her outdoors for a pleasant and challenging hike.
12. Watch the sunrise (or set) together
Watching the sunrise or set might sound like a cliche on a dating profile but it’s actually a really nice, calm activity. There is no better way to start (or end) the day than sharing a beautiful moment with the girl you wish to date.
Depending on the mood, you can use this time to get to know her better or take a romantic silent approach and just enjoy the view together. Pay attention to her signals and go with the flow.
13. Take a drive
If you’re out of ways to show your interest in a girl, you don’t have to make it complicated. Take her for a casual and relaxing drive. Sometimes a car ride will be enough to relax and entertain her while allowing her to lay back and enjoy her time with you.
You don’t have to go anywhere, in particular, just pick somewhere with a great scenic view and not too much traffic. Make the experience memorable by playing music she likes. If she starts singing along, that’s a very good sign she’s relaxed and feels comfortable around you.
14. Add her on Facebook
Social media is ingrained in everybody’s life nowadays. You might think adding the girl you’re interested in on social media is no big deal, you’re probably mistaken.
The important thing is to show her that you want to stay in touch with her, and there is no more accessible and subtle way than to be part of her friends on Facebook.
The information she chooses to put out there can also be helpful. You’ll know her birthday and the types of activities she enjoys. If you choose to leave a comment on her wall or photos, be respectful and don’t come off creepy.
15. Like her Instagram pictures
Like being her friend on Facebook, Instagram can be a subtle way to show her you’re interested in staying close. Unlike other social platforms, Instagram is more visual and interactive as you can like and comment on photos or stories she posts.
You can get a better idea of the kind of person she is by the type of pictures she takes, the people in her photos, and the places she visits frequently. Take advantage of key opportunities to post comments on interesting pictures she posts.
Just like with any other social media engagement, keep it respectful and thoughtful. Remember, her whole network can read your comments.
16. Follow up on previous conversations
When you’re invested in someone whether a friend, family member, or potential partner, you tend to remember important details and conversations with them.
A great way to show interest is to remember the last conversation you had and follow up with asking how things turned out. She’ll definitely appreciate the attention to detail.
17. Follow her on TikTok
Few people haven’t heard about Tik Tok, especially after the pandemic. The girl you like is probably on this popular platform too. Take advantage of the many features on this social platform by following her, commenting, and dueting her content.
She will surely appreciate your attention and consideration if you value the effort and time she invests in her content.
18. Ask them for a show recommendation
Talking about the latest Netflix series or Hulu documentary is as common as asking how someone’s weekend went.
There’s so much great content available and people love to give their recommendations on the latest true crime docuseries or hilarious sitcoms.
Getting to know the shows that she enjoys can also tell you a lot about her personality and give you a lot more conversation topics.
19. Bring her a snack
Keep it simple! If you’re looking for a way to show your interest, bring her favorite snack. Yes, think about it, a snack is a convenient and casual way to show you’re thinking about someone and remember things they like.
What a thoughtful gesture to show your interest and open up the possibility of a more personal relationship.
20. Rip the band-aid off and take a chance
This one isn’t for the faint of heart. Sometimes being honest and direct is the best way to get the answer you’re looking for.
Tell them you like them and ask them out on a date. As long as you’re respectful there’s nothing wrong with this approach. Just know that if she isn’t interested, it’s best to move on.
21. Give them a cute nickname
It can be a clever play on their name or an inside joke. Giving some a nickname builds a subtle but strong communication bond between individuals. Keep it respectful.
The trick is to see how she responds to it. If she smiles and laughs, that’s a good sign, you need to make sure she enjoys the name otherwise you’ll just end up annoying her.
Another great sign is if she comes up with one for you. These little personalized inside jokes can be the start of a great bond.
22. Ask her to workout together
If you’ve noticed that she is a workout fanatic, then you might have found your chance to express your interest in her. You can offer to accompany her for a walk, jog, or run if she likes the outdoors.
Maybe she goes to the gym or a yoga studio. Ask her questions and show your interest in her workouts, if she’s interested in you, she might offer some advice or an invitation to join her.
Sharing and spending time with your special someone while working up a sweat will definitely help create a stronger bond between you two.
23. Write her a letter
You probably think that letters are a thing of the past, and you might be correct, but they’re still a practical and straightforward way to show how much you’re interested in them.
If you think about it, letters are very unusual nowadays, making them even more valuable, primarily if they are written with a meaningful message.
Think hard about what to include in your letter. If you want to go above and beyond with your letter, handwrite it. There is an extraordinary power and charm in knowing that somebody took specific time and attention to sit down and write. Take advantage of the power of writing in your quest for love.
24. Bake something for her
If you’re having a tough time finding ways to approach a girl and show interest in her, then your baking skills might be handy. You have no idea how much a woman would appreciate enjoying a freshly baked treat.
She’ll undoubtedly think about the time, effort, and care it takes to expertly bake something delicious for her.
25. Cook her favorite meal
If you would rather cook than bake, you can also use your hands and talent to prepare something tasty and unique for her. The advantage of cooking is that you have countless options; the only limit is your imagination.
You can go from something simple and fulfilling to something fancy and more elaborate; whatever you end up cooking, you can be sure she will love it.
If you have no idea what you’re doing in the kitchen, YouTube is your friend! Watch videos and do a couple of practice runs until the recipe turns out just right.
26. Give her flowers
Giving flowers can seem cheesy, but it totally works. It is one of those things where it’s hard to go wrong. There’s a reason why giving flowers is the universal sign of caring.
Imagine how you’d brighten her day by receiving a colorful and beautifully arranged flower bouquet that will remind her how much you care about her.
27. Visit a park together
You have many options to have a great time and a friendly conversation with a girl you like, but a park is definitely a great choice. Think about it, fresh air, people watching, pets running around, it’s a peaceful place with a ton of conversation starters.
Maybe there are swings so you two can compete to see who goes higher and laugh with the kids that most likely will be playing around you. It’s the perfect opportunity to get to know her better and also be active while doing so.
Most importantly, a park allows her to be relaxed and at ease. She can talk frankly about any topic she wants. Your goal is to be comfortable so she feels confident about being herself.
28. Take a picture
Taking good pictures is an ability that often goes unnoticed and undervalued. Still, many girls love to have interesting photos on social media. If you know about angles, poses, and lighting when taking pics, offer to take some memorable images that she can post everywhere.
Once you’ve taken a few pictures of her, you can slide in the possibility of taking a few snapshots of you two together. A subtle way of showing how much you like her and creating memories that will last a lifetime.
29. Offer to do a favor for her
Everybody needs a favor from time to time, an errand that you can’t do yourself, or something from the store you need to buy. You can always offer to save her day by doing something for her that she requires urgently.
Think of all the stress and headaches you will save your crush by being her hero for the day, what a great way to show your interest!
30. Try a restaurant for the first time together
Visiting a restaurant for the first time is always an exciting experience, especially if you get to take the girl you like. Figure out her favorite food, and do some research to see what kind of restaurants might blow her away.
Consider other essential items such as prices, menus, and reviews from people who have recently visited. Avoid busiest times, and make reservations if possible. You want to make the experience as enjoyable as possible.
31. Have a deep heartfelt conversation with her
Sometimes a girl just wants to be heard, she is eager to have complete and undivided attention to talk about anything she might be going through. You should be considerate and kind to lend your ear whenever she needs one.
Be the person who’s available for her when she needs to be listened to, and she eventually will get closer to you. There is no better way to show interest in somebody than being there for them when they need it most.
32. Spend a holiday together
You can always ask the girl you like if she has any plans for an upcoming holiday. If you get as an answer “no plans” or “not much,” then you might have some wiggle room to propose something fun and to do with her.
You can try having a picnic date or even a coffee run. Whatever you suggest, keep it casual and simple. Your primary intention should be to show interest and start a closer relationship.
33. Call her regularly
There is no better way to show interest in a girl than by staying in touch with her. You can opt to communicate with her by calling her from time to time or sending a text.
The important thing is for her to get into a routine of talking to you so she can look forward to receiving your next call. Allow her to get used to you, your voice, and most importantly, your interest in her.
34. Give her a souvenir
Whenever you go on a trip, vacation, or getaway, remember to take advantage of the occasion and bring a cute and memorable souvenir for the girl you like.
Depending on what she wants, you can choose a functional souvenir she can frequently use so she can have you in mind constantly or even something silly that plays on an inside joke you two have.
Try to go beyond the run-of-the-mill keychain or fridge magnet. Think outside the box to surprise her with the perfect keepsake she’ll love.
35. Take her to dinner
You might think that taking the girl you like to dinner is a daring or excessively bold move to express your interest at the beginning. Think again! Taking somebody to dinner is a nice gesture that can open up a world of opportunities if you know how to play your cards right.
The most important thing is to keep it casual and not create unrealistic expectations. The goal is to express your interest in her by providing a nice dinner, great company, and an opportunity to get to know her better.
Just because you take her to dinner, doesn’t mean she has any obligations to you. Read the signs and be a gentleman, you’ll be surprised how far a dinner can go in terms of relationship building.
36. Comfort her when she’s sad/depressed
If you notice the girl you like has been down lately, you have work to do. You can take a few minutes out of your day to pull the girl aside and ask her if everything is okay and, most notably, if there is anything you can do to help.
Most of the time, there is little you can do to solve personal issues, but you can definitely make it a point to assure her you will be there when she needs you.
37. Introduce her to your close friends
Suppose you want to show a girl you’re serious about getting to know her better. In that case, you can consider introducing her to your close circle of friends.
Opening up with a girl by showing her the most important people in your life will definitely show her that you’re interested in her.
Girls value and appreciate when you’re bold and take the initiative to bring them to the people that mean a lot to you. Take advantage of the situation, and invite her into your world.
38. Get to know what she loves
If you’re serious about showing the girl you like that you’re interested in her, then find out what she loves to do. One of the best ways to display that you want to get somebody better is to know her favorite color, music, food, and hanging spots.
You don’t need to ask her directly, just pay attention when she talks t, she might disclose more personal information. Take a mental note when she tells you something you can use later on to give her a pleasant surprise.
39. Go for a stroll by the beach
There is nothing better than having a good time with the girl you like in a fun and relaxing place like the beach. If you have difficulty choosing a site to take your crush to, seriously consider spending a few hours on any beach.
There’s no shortage of things to do. If you get bored, you can walk by the shore or even dive in the sea if you’re feeling adventurous and daring.
If you want to relax, you can sit under a beach umbrella to contemplate your surroundings. You can spend some time laughing at the kids splashing in the water or commenting on the architectural abilities of the teenagers building sand castles.
You can be sure your date will love your idea and gesture of spending some time together in such a fun place.
40. Go for a swim together
You can take advantage of the summer by inviting the girl you like to the local swimming pool or if you have a generous friend, theirs. Sometimes you’re out of ideas and just can’t think of a way to get closer to the girl you like, take a look at your surroundings.
It’s hot outside, you want to refresh, and you’re looking for a fun and creative way to show a girl that you’re serious about getting to know her better. Take advantage of the hot weather, and take the girl you’re interested in for a fun and cooling swim.
FAQs about telling a girl you like her
What if you’ve just recently met?
It could be tempting to rush and try to tell the girl you just met how much you like and are attracted to her. Even though you could be relatively safe when you follow your intuition, be cautious, especially nowadays.
You don’t want to look desperate, or even worse, you don’t want to give the impression you’re a creep or a stalker. Remember that easy come, easy goes. Take some time to create a solid and more steady relationship with a girl so you can eventually show your interest.
Start with the basics, increase the amount of time you spend with her, keep the time you share fun and casual, and make the relationship grow naturally and organically.
Don’t get too intrusive by asking personal and intimate questions at the beginning as this could be a big red flag for her.
What if you have been dating her for some time?
If you’ve been dating the girl you like for some time, you have a great advantage. You’ve been able to get to know her a bit better, and you have more information that you can use.
You most likely know her favorite food, hobbies, special activities, and priorities in life. You can tailor how you express your interest and love towards her based on what you’ve learned from her.
Use the feedback you’ve been getting from her during the time you have been dating in your favor. If you notice that she is having a good time and enjoying herself with you, that means you’re on the right path.
The most important thing is to know if she reciprocates the attention she gets from you. Positive feedback will be the incentive you need to keep going.
What if she’s a longtime friend?
If you have been close to the girl you like as a friend for some time, you’re ahead of the curve already. You know her from many angles a new guy wouldn’t. You know precisely the kind of person she’s interested in or maybe you’ve met her previous partners.
Take advantage of your position and evade her previous lovers’ mistakes. Go the extra mile to listen to her needs and wants.
Many people think that it is risky to date a friend since there is always the possibility of the relationship not working out. If no love connection sparks between you two for some reason, your friendship could suffer afterward. Life is about risks, evaluate your situation and take the leap of faith if you think it is worth it.
What if you work together?
Dating co-workers can be challenging and complex. But, we live in a complicated world, and sometimes interest and love appear in the most unexpected places. If you work with the girl you like, chances are you have interacted with her or crossed paths constantly.
You can take advantage of the time you happen to share at work with her by making small talk, having subtle interactions, and paying compliments here and there. The important thing about showing interest to a co-worker is for her to think of you as an honest and reliable option for a future date.
Be aware that if you two get into a serious relationship, depending on the job and company, there might be procedures that you’ll need to take with human resources to disclose your relationship. Not doing so can result in consequences leading up to and including termination.
Is she aware of my interest after sleeping together?
Having sex is an intimate act that can entail many things to the people participating. Going all the way does not necessarily mean that a girl wants something serious with you.
Remember that hookups and no strings attached sex happen all the time, but there might be some things you can do to show interest beyond explicit sex. Intimacy is way more than the act of sex, it involves feelings, touching, talking, understanding, and reciprocity.
The things you can do to ensure the girl you like gets the message that you want more than sex could be small but powerful. Make sure you hug and kiss with intention, do it passionately and slowly.
Every gesture and movement should convey that you’re interested in more than her body, you’re going after her heart and soul. Create an intimate connection, listen to what she says, remember the little details she mentions, and care for her feelings.
She’ll start noticing your interest as you show that you care for her as a person and not just a sexual partner.
What if she’s not interested in me?
The world is not perfect, and neither is love. Although you’d like to get the same attention and desire back from the girl you like, sometimes things just don’t work out. It’s essential to consider and remember that it is perfectly normal for a girl not to like you back.
It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you, sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there. Don’t feel sad or depressed, be happy and satisfied that you were willing to take a significant risk by showing interest and revealing your feelings.
If a girl shows no interest in you after you pursue her, don’t stress. You have a great opportunity of learning from the experience by paying attention to some mistakes you would like to avoid the next time. Analyze your moves, realign, and keep moving.
Don’t pass up on the opportunity to make a new friend if she is a great individual but has no interest in you romantically, you will definitely find your match along the way.